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By: Sara J Gamble
We’re not going to hash out what’s better, having the wedding all at one venue or having it at your choice of religious venue and then reception in another place. This is going to be an all-pro article on doing whatever you prefer. And while this writer has a preference, I will let my awesome readers help me do the talking.
“The Two-Parter” aka ceremony in one-spot (usually a religious spot and for arguments sake we’ll reference a Church) and the reception is at another.
Now personally, I think I’ve been to a few dozen weddings at a Church and been in four that have done this and I think they are beautiful. A wedding ceremony at a religious venue can be a perfect way to incorporate the couple’s religious background and a gateway to their future.
Alexandra: I have no regrets about my ceremony venue. I loved having a church wedding and would do it again in a heartbeat. My own mental pictures of that day, walking down the aisle with my dad, hearing the string quartet, seeing Brian at the front of the church, the sunlight pouring through the stained-glass ..all exactly what I wanted for my wedding day. We want to renew our vows someday, either Disney or some tropical beach, but if I had my wedding to do over again, the ceremony would be exactly the same.
Hilary: It was always sort of known that the wedding would be at my parish, St. Andrews. It's just always been a life-long dream to walk down that massive aisle (which is now, sort of giving me anxiety thinking about it!!).
“All-in-one” Having your wedding all at one place has many pros - being a bride who had everything at one hotel, I must say I’d never do it another way. We saved money on transportation (as in, no need to have any), didn’t have to be concerned about people getting lost in the shuffle or missing, or us missing anything ...it was all right there.
I’ll quote myself on this because I went through it...When I was 8 years old my sister got married in our hometown church, I’ll always remember how beautiful she - and the day - both were. As I grew older and fell in love with an amazing Jewish man, I knew I would not get that “church” wedding, so I adjusted my thought process and ended up with an amazing wedding at a gorgeous hotel. I was virtually stress-free all day...arrived at the hotel, had some champagne, got dressed and headed downstairs. I think the only part I semi-freaked out was when every single elevator was full and we were on the 13th floor. We had to ask a group of people to get out so we wouldn’t be late to the ceremony! When I wanted to switch shoes everything was right there, when my friends or family needed to get something it was an elevator ride away. I wouldn’t change having everything in one spot for the world.
When it comes down to your venue preference and if you choose all in one spot or one place and then the other you have to factor in a lot. You have to take into account what you and your fiance want - as well as what your family expects, in terms of religious views. Of all the things you begin to plan, I believe the ceremony should take the most care because it is the part of the day where it is truly about just you and the person you are marrying.
In this day and age, it’s beautiful to think that a couple has a choice and how the options to where and how you do your ceremony are virtually unlimited. You can have a traditional wedding or be creative and have it at a beach, a museum or even an aquarium. You can take any aspect of your life, any venue or location you’ve always loved and turn it into the ceremony spot of your dreams...because who would say no to saying “I do” on a beach at sunset?
“The Two-Parter” aka ceremony in one-spot (usually a religious spot and for arguments sake we’ll reference a Church) and the reception is at another.
Now personally, I think I’ve been to a few dozen weddings at a Church and been in four that have done this and I think they are beautiful. A wedding ceremony at a religious venue can be a perfect way to incorporate the couple’s religious background and a gateway to their future.
Alexandra: I have no regrets about my ceremony venue. I loved having a church wedding and would do it again in a heartbeat. My own mental pictures of that day, walking down the aisle with my dad, hearing the string quartet, seeing Brian at the front of the church, the sunlight pouring through the stained-glass ..all exactly what I wanted for my wedding day. We want to renew our vows someday, either Disney or some tropical beach, but if I had my wedding to do over again, the ceremony would be exactly the same.
Hilary: It was always sort of known that the wedding would be at my parish, St. Andrews. It's just always been a life-long dream to walk down that massive aisle (which is now, sort of giving me anxiety thinking about it!!).
“All-in-one” Having your wedding all at one place has many pros - being a bride who had everything at one hotel, I must say I’d never do it another way. We saved money on transportation (as in, no need to have any), didn’t have to be concerned about people getting lost in the shuffle or missing, or us missing anything ...it was all right there.
I’ll quote myself on this because I went through it...When I was 8 years old my sister got married in our hometown church, I’ll always remember how beautiful she - and the day - both were. As I grew older and fell in love with an amazing Jewish man, I knew I would not get that “church” wedding, so I adjusted my thought process and ended up with an amazing wedding at a gorgeous hotel. I was virtually stress-free all day...arrived at the hotel, had some champagne, got dressed and headed downstairs. I think the only part I semi-freaked out was when every single elevator was full and we were on the 13th floor. We had to ask a group of people to get out so we wouldn’t be late to the ceremony! When I wanted to switch shoes everything was right there, when my friends or family needed to get something it was an elevator ride away. I wouldn’t change having everything in one spot for the world.
When it comes down to your venue preference and if you choose all in one spot or one place and then the other you have to factor in a lot. You have to take into account what you and your fiance want - as well as what your family expects, in terms of religious views. Of all the things you begin to plan, I believe the ceremony should take the most care because it is the part of the day where it is truly about just you and the person you are marrying.
In this day and age, it’s beautiful to think that a couple has a choice and how the options to where and how you do your ceremony are virtually unlimited. You can have a traditional wedding or be creative and have it at a beach, a museum or even an aquarium. You can take any aspect of your life, any venue or location you’ve always loved and turn it into the ceremony spot of your dreams...because who would say no to saying “I do” on a beach at sunset?
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Do you crave a daily dose of wedding advice? Check out my new daily blog to help you with each and every need. www.dailydoseofwedding.com
Got something you want to read about or a question about a situation you're in the middle of and need an honest answer? Feel free to email me at BeforeIDo@haleymadisonmag.com with the appropriate subject line, even if I don't write about it I promise I will get back to you one way or another!
Follow this column on Twitter > @BeforeIDo_HMM
Follow me > @saraxj
Do you crave a daily dose of wedding advice? Check out my new daily blog to help you with each and every need. www.dailydoseofwedding.com
FEBRUARY 2011-- Where to Say "I DO"
It seems as though in the hustle and bustle of planning a wedding, and budgeting and figuring out a price per head...we sometimes overlook or not give enough thought to the part that pulls the whole wedding together... The Ceremony.
If one person doesn’t show up, or something else goes wrong (like in Friends, when Ross says “I Ross, take you, Rachel...I mean Emily!”) - the whole rest of the wedding won’t be happening. So while we fuss and finagle over table covers and entree choices, I think we all need to take a step back and remember why you are actually attending or planning a wedding ...the action of two people coming together as one and pledging their love and life.
If one person doesn’t show up, or something else goes wrong (like in Friends, when Ross says “I Ross, take you, Rachel...I mean Emily!”) - the whole rest of the wedding won’t be happening. So while we fuss and finagle over table covers and entree choices, I think we all need to take a step back and remember why you are actually attending or planning a wedding ...the action of two people coming together as one and pledging their love and life.
before I do.
