1 - Those who you can always be 100% honest with regardless of what it is you have to say. If you find a someone like this, hold onto them. They are a rare form.

2 - Those who you can be honest with a majority of the time but there are times where you know it’s better to either dull the truth down or maybe not say anything at all.

3 - Those who despite your best effort - you cannot be honest with them in the manner you want. Be it other obligations or the fact the person simply does not want to hear it...these are the people who will make it difficult for your not only your life...but your wedding.

Further, there are those who feel like you owe them something for your wedding. And if you put together a person who feels like you owe them and they cannot handle the truth....run for the hills.

I never thought our wedding would shape the future of the relationships of some people in our lives I always heard about wedding changes things but I did not believe it; but the God’s honest truth is...it has - some for the better and some for the worst.

Our family and friends that stood by us and had putting together a wedding easy, we will never forget it and at the same time, those that caused us grief and headaches - we will never forget your actions, we may never say anything, but we will always remember how you acted.

So what’s a person to do? Like I said, you can’t yell at everyone so there needs to be a place for you to put all these thoughts. Here are my top suggestions:

Write or type a letter up to yourself outlining all the things that people did to you. Most times even if you don’t (or can’t) send it...it will help you feel better in the long run knowing that this letter is there.

Start an ANONYMOUS blog or Twitter account to air it all out. I can’t stress enough to make this anonymous and leave real names out. Even go so far to make-up a fake email address and call yourself something like “One Angry Bride” - thus getting your message out there while keeping the people your mad at in the dark. 

Find a new hobby or DIY wedding project to put all your energy into. Who knows, you might end up making amazing center pieces or ceremony programs.

I’m not crafty (no seriously, stick figures escape me), and I didn’t want to do an anonymous blog or Twitter because I have enough email addresses (7) to keep track but I am a writer and therefore I pushed all my thoughts into a private post. Given that I still choose not to publicly share what mind-numbing ridiculousness went down...you won’t find it on HMM or DDOW. It’s saved to my Google Docs account for me to share if and only if I want to. It feels nice knowing it’s there, prepped and ready to be unleashed should ever want to see how truly pissed off I was. But in closing, I don’t think I’ll ever make it public...so readers, if you want to read email me (email address below). I’m willing to share privately with you the problems I had, all you have to do is ask.

In closing I will say this: friendships are born and die on the battlefield of wedding planning...choose your fellow soldiers wisely.